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Why Do I Feel Selfish Asking For Help For My Depression?

Jul 8, 2021

Do you suspect you may be depressed but worry that asking for treatment might be selfish? Many people have depression, which is a serious but often a hidden health issue.

But feeling selfish for asking for help with depression is an undue burden on yourself. You don’t have to feel this way, and just as important, you don’t deserve to feel sad.

It’s important to remember that you’re not alone in your feelings. According to one estimate, at least 16.2 million people suffer from depression each year.

See, as it turns out, it’s part of being human. And this means that you won’t be alone in asking for help since many people get successfully treated and feel better.

When you meet with a therapist, they can recommend a course of treatment that makes sense to you. One option you might want to consider is called TMS treatment. “TMS” stands for transcranial magnetic stimulation.

You deserve to be happy, and it is not selfish to feel better. Here’s a look at depression symptoms, ways to fix depression, and what TMS can do for you.

What is Depression?

Depression can result in a variety of symptoms such as:

  • Sadness
  • Lack of interest in favorite things
  • Loss of energy
  • Loss of interest in hobbies you once loved
  • Emotional (crying)
  • Irritable/ angry
  • Unable to sleep

Just to name a few.

When someone feels depressed, it’s usually because they think that things are hopeless. Being depressed means you may feel more cranky and short with friends and loved ones, who notice that you just don’t seem like yourself.

We aren’t born with depression- kids tend to be happy people under normal circumstances. But as humans, it’s easy for all of us to become depressed under stress or when terrible things happen.

The brain controls our body movements, and it also influences how we feel. It is an organ just like all others in the body.

Unfortunately, for most people, it can malfunction from time to time. Brain chemistry can cause feelings of sadness. Furthermore, sometimes feelings of depression are based on the workings of that organ alone.

How Can Depression Hurt You if It Goes Untreated?

Untreated depression can make everyone miserable, not just you. For this reason, getting treatment for depression is not selfish. Although it’s not as evident as missing a leg or having pneumonia, being depressed is still an illness. Emotional injuries and trauma can also cause it.

When you are depressed, you may have trouble taking care of yourself. You may not pay bills on time or not get the right foods you need to stay healthy. If you’re a student, you may fail to concentrate or focus on your work, and your grades may suffer. Your lawn may suffer, and the trash may start to pile up at your house.

Severe depression can lead to job loss and all its related consequences. If you have a family, you don’t want them to suffer because you couldn’t take care of their financial needs. And no one will enjoy seeing you run yourself into the ground because you don’t get the help you need to deal with your depression.

How Does Therapy for Depression Work?

Help for depression usually starts with talking with a therapist about how you feel and what caused you to be so down. The therapist’s job is not to judge but to listen and guide you into self-insights.

Sometimes it helps to talk about things and have someone listen without making us feel worse. That’s what a therapist does for someone with depression. They can counterbalance the awful people or circumstances that caused you to become depressed. Their job is to listen and guide you to resources that can help you recover.

Be wary of any “therapists” who aren’t in-network with a reputable insurance provider. The reason for this? There are a lot of quacks out there peddling cures for depression that don’t work.

If you tried therapy before and it didn’t help, you may have experienced poor quality.

Finding a good therapist may take a few tries to get the best fit for you. If you aren’t sure where to start, tell your doctor you need a referral. They’ll be able to point you in the right direction, so you get quality care.

Your medical doctor will also be able to prescribe anti-depressants. They help your brain heal by balancing out your brain chemicals.

Some people stay on these medicines for a few months or years until their depression eases and they feel better. Others need them long-term or permanently. Your doctor will help you decide what’s best for your particular medical situation.

Other Depression Treatments To Consider

For most people, the best cure for depression tends to be talk therapy combined with medication. But you have plenty of other treatment options for depression available to choose from.

TMS treatment is an FDA-cleared, painless procedure that uses magnets to stimulate your brain cells. It targets areas of the brain that are known to control mood and how you feel.

Patients who choose this treatment don’t have to undergo surgery or become sedated. Most people tolerate it well, with little to no side effects. Once a session complete, they leave the treatment location and go on with their day.

And it works. After repeated applications, patients report that their symptoms lessen and clear up. There is no limit to the number of sessions you can safely experience. And if you ever need more TMS in the future, there is no barrier to further treatment.

Is Getting Treatment for Depression Selfish?

Getting treatment for depression is not selfish. By staying depressed, you’ll have a hard time contributing to anyone or anything, much less yourself.

Whether you choose TMS treatment, medication, or a combination of talk therapy and other forms of treatment, you deserve it.

Being in treatment is the farthest away you can be from a selfish state. If you still can’t get treatment for YOU, then get it for the other people in your life and your neighborhood.

With TMS Treatment, You Don’t Have to Suffer Alone

Isolation and loneliness are symptoms reported by some people going through depression. If this describes you, know that you don’t have to tolerate feeling this way.

There’s no reason to suffer alone! Therapies like TMS treatment can help you get back to feeling like yourself again.

To find out more about TMS and other treatment options, contact us today!

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Tired of the results you’re getting from your standard treatment? Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation may be able to increase your chances of long-term remission, reducing your symptoms and allowing you to live a more joyful life.




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